How to Make New Year’s Resolutions Happen in Real Life

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We all start a new year with some sort of intention or even a resolution.  So I’ve asked people around me about their intentions and goals for this new year. To be honest, I was expecting to hear about huge  goals, but what most people really wish to, is to live more fully every day.

You know, enjoy, love, laugh and experience great moments some more.

That got me thinking. How do we do that? To live more fully. It sounds quite simple, yet many of us, myself including, still don’t know how to really go about it and apply it to our everyday life.

I’m sure, you agree that it’s tough job to change anything. It requires a lot of discomfort, acceptance of uncertainty and persistance, especially when the going gets tough, as it usually does.

That’s when I realized, we wish to change too many things at once.

We want to enjoy more, love, lose weight, wiser, more successful at once. We take way too much on our plate and fail by losing the focus.

Obviously, I’m not a champ fixing that, not even close. The truth is that, it’s something I’m still learning.

But, what I’ve learned is that  one step at the time approach works great in real life.

So this year, I’m trying something new. Each month, I focus on one tiny thing I’ve wished to include in my life. During the whole January my aim has been to start each day with meditation. So that’s what I’ve done. Post coming up about my experience.  Can’t wait to tell you about February.

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As always, I’d like to hear from you. Join the conversation in comments.

What have you been up to in January?

Did you have any resolutions for the new year?

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Happy New Year!

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Quick hello from me.

I want to wish you all the best for the New Year. Thanks for making my 2014 better through your comments and likes. May 2015 bring happiness, health, love, courage and lots of fun.

Dare to spread your wings, let go and fly. That’s what I intend to do.

Happy 2015!

p.s I had some unfinished business with 2014 , so today I finally ran my 10 K. :D

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Mindful Monday: Rock Your Life

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Just wanted to share this with you (again), because I love, love, love this message. :)

For me, it’s all about living an authentic and fulfilled life. That’s what I try to do through mindfulness.

Because, life is too short to spend it on something you don’t really care about.

Tell me in comments….

How did you find your purpose? What is it?

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Mindful Monday: How to Deal With Negative Thoughts (And Follow Your Dream)

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I have struggled with negative thoughts (like most people) for as long as I remember. It’s like ongoing battle that shows up.  Negative thoughts drain us of energy  and limit us to dare great things in life.

It happens more often than we realize. Negative thoughts just kill great dreams.

Here are a couple of examples from my life. I still struggle with this, but I’ve learned to deal with it. Will tell you in a bit. But, first, the example I promised.

I’ve always known I’m an entrepreneur, but I’ve always not allowed myself to believe in it.  Reason? Everyone around me follows the “normal path”. So I did the same and felt like a misfit for a long time. Fear and negative thoughts can be really powerful like that. We stay in safe zone and don’t even question our choices.

But, I enjoy building stuff, I see hidden opportunities when I allow myself to be creative, I negotiate whenever I get a chance, because it’s fun and I push through stuff, when going gets tough.  I like to take charge and be responsible and I don’t let people down.

But, then I’ve allowed negative thoughts to stop me in the past. I’ve let my dreams down because of that. I’m guessing you can relate?

Some examples:

  • I’m not an extrovert (actually, many entrepreneurs are introverts)
  • I’ve never owned a business before  (
  • I don’t have a fancy degree from college (well, now I do, but back in the days I didn’t and I thought I needed to have some paper to prove my worth. Couldn’t be more wrong! Some of the best entrepreneurs don’t have any degrees.)
  • I don’t have large enough network
  • I don’t like selling (yet, I’ve sold stuff before)
  • I look too young (haha, I wish I still had this worry)
  • I’ll fail anyway
  • It takes time and money to get started (true, but these are really excuses)

You get the picture. Negative thoughts can be sneaky and very limiting. We can’t be authentic, unless we face them. I’ve dealt with them long enough and I still fall into the trap once in a while.

But, here is what I’ve discovered and how to take some control back…..no matter your goal or dream. Afterall, life is too short.

Here is how to deal with them.

  1. Accept, that thoughts are just thoughts. Nothing more. We don’t actually have to believe them. I’ve learned to watch the negative thoughts. Say you have a bad day, but you’re in the middle of commitment or project and then you have ney sayer going nuts in your mind. Good news is that, we can just Watch these thoughts as they occur, but choose to not react or believe in them. I know….mindblowing.
  2. Learn to know your automatic thoughts. These often come in form of intern dialog. The trick is to learn to recognize this pattern. I’ve learned that when I have a bad day, I more likely to believe in negative thoughts. So, I’m extra attentive to my thoughts on a bad day. I catch myself thinking something limiting and I just notice it and watch it, but don’t let it take over me and choices.
  3. Replace negative thoughts with constructive ones. I’ve used meditation and mindfulness for this purpose. It doesn’t happen overnight, but when I pay attention to my thoughts during the day and I meditate, I pay attention to these negative patterns and I question most of my negative thoughts. By doing this, I’m less likely to fall into the trap of believing them.

Tell me in comments…. :)

How do you deal with negative thoughts?

What have you always dreamt of doing?

Great articles:

10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy

How to Squash Negative Thought Patterns

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Mindful Monday: Breathe

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Some days just start off all wrong.

You know…. can’t find the other shoe, burn the breakfast and leave home without phone. The seemingly small stuff get us.

On such days we tend to react.  And it’s so difficult not to.

But, the good news is that a simple breath or five can make a huge difference for the rest of the day.

Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Done.

I promise it helps.  Off to clean the breakfast mess and find the other shoe. :)

Mindful Monday: What Running In The Rain Has Taught Me

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Today, it’s raining in Copenhagen. So cozy! :)

Lately, one of my most favorite things to do is to run outdoors when it rains. It’s kinda weird. I know. I even have a gym membership, so I could run indoors, but I don’t enjoy it as much as outside.

Running in rain is tough, but also much more fun than running indoors.

I enjoy the rain on my face and the empty streets.

These runs train character and my acceptance muscle….you know?!

Makes you feel like the Rocky for a moment. :D

Side effect of my training is that rainy days of life seem less challenging.

Tell me….

Do you like walking or running in rain?